Normal is very different and different is very normal

Last night I was watching the movie Venom and I was left speechless. It really made me think. Who on planet earth has such an amazing imagination to make a movie like that? Is that normal? I never liked science fiction because it’s just completely unreal for me but I have to admit that this one has a very good story behind it. I started to ask myself how can we define the normal things in life and the ones that are different. How can we really know what is normal and what is different?

I grew up in a family of four. My parents were working a lot but during all the free days we were enjoying together, exploring the world, and taking care of each other. I considered myself as a very normal child. I was thinking about the future, how my wedding will look like and how many kids will I have. The normal kind of thoughts every little girl has at that stage.

Through my teenage years I heard lots of times how different I am, people were saying this all the time. Because of my sports career, I travelled a lot and met many people from different backgrounds and cultures and I thought that’s probably the reason why they see me as a very different person. My way of dressing, my hair style, the way I was doing things didn’t stand out from the average. I didn’t have pink hair with piercings all over my face or tattooed body, but yet, the same opinion from other people was staying with me through my life. Even my relationships didn’t work out because men were just very intimidated by me saying I am different and they were not able to handle that.

Years after, I met my husband and he was the complete opposite of me. Finally, I thought if he says I am different he will have a very good reason. When we started to get to know each other, he really did come out with this opinion and kept repeating himself all the time. And I always said, of course we are different and it’s very obvious. But my curiosity didn’t sleep so I opened a conversation and asked him more about that. He explained me that I am different than all the women he met in his life. My way of talking, interacting with people, thinking, expressing myself and even my priorities are not what he was experiencing with others.

Well now I know that I am different but at the same time I think completely normal from my point of view. We always like to use these two words to judge people and it isn’t supposed to be like that. Everyone has their own opinion about what’s normal and what’s different but be careful because whatever you think is strange and unreal can be completely normal for someone else. Thankfully we live in a mostly democratic world, so we all have the right to express our thoughts but we have to make sure that our words don’t hurt other people’s feelings.

 

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Communication Error

I managed to learn so many things about people by just observing them. It’s interesting to see how different we are. The way we walk, communicate and act in public reveals the true nature of us. And that kind of things show even more when it comes to relationships. Interaction between two people can show how deep or shallow is their love and respect for each other. Communication is a part of our daily life and it’s very important. But unfortunately it comes in so many different levels and it’s so unbelievable when you see a very good and a very bad one next to each other.

It was a lovely Sunday evening. I was enjoying with my husband and Michelle on the restaurant’s terrace, drinking wine and talking about family life. The restaurant was lit up and we were able to see everything going on inside. Suddenly our conversation changed and we started to observe people in the restaurant. Two couples immediately caught our attention. One of them probably in late 50’s and the other one in late 20’s. Interaction between these two couples was the complete opposite. It was a great inspiration for my writing.

The older couple looked like they were on the first date when you do all your best to really pay attention to the person sitting on the other side. They were talking all the time and it was obvious that the conversation was very interesting. We were able to see the eye contact and the body language that shows the connection between them. It was really incredible to see their sincere smiles and happiness throughout the whole evening.

On the other side the young couple was so different. At first I thought they were just friends decided to go out for a drink and ran out of topics to gossip about. Both of them were completely obsessed with phones. He was laughing while watching probably something really funny on the screen. At the same time her face had no expression, she was just looking at her phone, swiping left and right with her hand. Every once in a while she would look up, just rolled her eyes and focus right back into her own world. Half an hour later she asked him to get her another drink. He stood up, gave her a very short kiss and head to the bar to order a beer. After coming back to the table they repeated the same thing again and left the restaurant.

That was a very interesting observation for us and a great reminder at the same time how important communication is. We have to talk with our loved ones to understand them and get to know them on a different level. The new generation of couples are often too superficial and care only about the outside image. Whatever is underneath the shell doesn’t interest them. I wouldn’t say everybody is like that and probably the phones are not the only reason for communication errors. Couples don’t lose the love and sparkle just because you are too busy with your own little world. Pay attention to your loved ones and nourish the connection while enjoying life.

 

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